Throughout our lives we create a mental checklists of have-to's and want-to's. As we get older we call them bucket-lists. This is list of things we hope to do before we "kick the bucket". As adults, this list tends to be full of dreams that are not unobtainable, but perhaps requires things that are not readily available; like time and money. So, I started thinking. Why not make "bucket-lists" based on the seasons of our lives? My 14 year old stepdaughter had been actively creating a 2017 summer bucket-list in the notes section on her iPhone. The other day she asked me if I'd help her make a poster to hang in her room with all of her hope-to's listed in a fashion where she could admire them. I jump at any opportunity to be creative so I began doodling and listing her want-to's on the paper.
While looking at her list I was pleasantly surprised. It wasn't a list of crazy items. Lay down face first in the grass and smell it was one of the first things listed, followed by no cellphone for an entire day/night (this one will be interesting). Many of the things she wrote were so innocent, yet they are things that are not done on a daily basis. Her list is compiled with ideas that as an adult I often take for granted. Dance in the rain, take a walk after a thunderstorm, make crepes. I am SO down for all of these things! There will be days where she can cross ten things off the list, where others it may only be one. Then, after the summer she will have a poster she can fold up and keep as a memory of that summer.
She is entering high school in the fall, which is maybe the most terrifying thing I've ever experienced. I can vividly remember those years of my life, full of pressure, fitting in and trying to figure out who you are, all while your inner circle of friends do the exact same. Oh, and the idea that your parents know nothing and that they have never possibly dealt with the problems that you have! I look forward to watching and participating in her "bucket-list" antics and am thinking of having Ty make one as well.
It will be nice as a family to encourage and be part of each others interests. It is all too easy to get caught up in the day to day hustle and bustle. I can't even tell you how many times I have thought to myself "I should just leave the housework and do ________". For whatever reason, (probably my super type A personality), I can't seem to leave the dishes or laundry for later. It is something I am actively working on. I lost a friend a few months back to breast cancer. She was 31. There is not a day that goes by that she does not cross my mind. It was an eye opener in so many ways. We really can't take this life for granted. Tomorrow is not promised. I am going to sit down with my husband tonight with our feet up, a drink in hand and make a bucket list. I will take that inspiration from my stepdaughter and help her work towards her goals as well as my own.